My husband will not seek outside help, however I have sought counselling. He says it is ok if I need it, but when I return he has some sly question wondering if we are still married. Bullies, gets angry then tells me he is afraid I will leave and that he needs me. I believe he is still involved via email with his affair partner. He gave me a very expensive Christmas gift. I feel like this could be manipulation. How do I respond to the outbursts after counseling and the gift?