Q&A How Do I Tell Others about Our Recovery and How Do I Handle Being Triggered While Seeing Clients?

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I have so many questions. How to talk to family of origin about recovery from the affair when they want you to end your marriage? I try to get them to understand it is going to take time for me to heal. Also, they want me to come to their home and socialize. I am so not ready to face others - yes some is avoidance but some of it is I need downtime and time to grieve. I am not ready to tell others that we are separated? I fear the shame and judgement. I guess I am still holding onto to hope my husband will change. It has been six months since Dday. He has put in minimal effort - some individual and marital counseling but no recovery work. Also, he has continued to talk to affair partner; which is why I made the very painful and difficult decision to ask to separate. I have lost 25 lbs. and my anxiety is sky high. I feel I had no choice as my health has deteriorated so much but to leave. He will not leave the house and I don't feel comfortable being there anymore. Advice? I work professionally as a counselor so there are times I get triggered in session by topics that loosely relate to the affair...like being dishonest. This has happened even when I am working with children. How do I cope with this?



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