After many rounds of ‘back-and-forth’, we are three weeks into our second out of home separation. My husband struggled with overwhelming entanglement after ending the affair, and moved out. My husband has done another 180. His ambivalence is seemingly gone. He has registered for Hope for Healing, made arrangements for couples counselling, seemingly he is ‘all-in’ to reconciliation after only just moving out and establishing his own apartment. He reports he knew immediately that he didn’t want to move out but had to be sure why he was feeling the way he did. I do not want to, I cannot, do another round of ‘back-and-forth’.