Video Restricted to Recovery Library members. My husband says he wants to save long marriage after series of affairs, last one emotional attachment and deep involvement for years. However, I learned he still calls her (less than in past) and denies it . What is normal and reasonable to expect in ending/disengaging such a mood elevating affair? What affirmative actions are recommended beyond "it's over" which words have been repeated in the past and have no meaning? I need more to feel safe.