Q&A How Long Should I Wait for My Spouse to Overcome Ambivalence and Make a Decision?

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My husband has been ambivalent about working on the marriage or leaving it since D-day 3 months ago. We are doing individual counseling, marriage counseling and went to EMS weekend. He still has strong feelings for his affair partner which he says hasn't faded. But he has committed to not contacting her over these past 3 months. He also has fallen out of love with me. 

What should I be doing at this point and how long should I wait for him to make a decision?



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