Q&A Is it OK for Me to Say No Even Though it May Make Things Worse?

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I'm pretty sure I know the answer to this question before I ask but I need help making the RIGHT WITH GOD answer. I've tried, a lot, to make our marriage work, including going to and doing things that I don't believe were right. Now my husband wants me to hang out with him and his friends and their wives who all drink. I know everyone on here believes differently but my husband is an alcoholic. When he drinks he becomes very angry and very aggressive. Once you've seen this it's not something you want to be around. But this is something that I tried with him early on when I first found out about his affair. I would have done anything to have gotten him back. None of those things worked out for me or our marriage. We are still struggling. I recently heard a preacher say, "it won't be right until you get right." So, the question is, even though it only causes more friction between us, is it ok to say no? I don't want to go to a bar with you. It's amazing that we have nothing in common after 26 years of marriage. Nothing.



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