Q&A Is My Wife's On-Going Ambivalence Towards Our Relationship the Best That I Can Hope For?

To watch the video please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library.
To watch the video, please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library.
Gain unlimited access to over 1,800 articles and expert Q&A videos.
Already a Recovery Library member? Log in to listen to the full recording.


It has been six years since my wife's affair ended and she still feels ambivalent towards our relationship. It leaves me feeling completely alone most of the time, yet she will say most of the right things when directly questioned. She is here and behaving safe. I am as confident as I can be that her affair has ended and a new one has not begun. At the same time I feel like I have been friend-zoned in my own marriage. Lots of openness and maturity growth on her part, yet zero intimacy, physical or emotional, between us or attempts to meet me where my needs are. I am ready to move forward, I am living out forgiveness every day, and I want more for my marriage. I don't want our old marriage back but I need more than this empty shell that we have been left with. I know marriage isn't a give-to-get relationship but I need more return for my efforts than just good co-parenting. I lose a little more hope in a better future together each day that passes. Is this the best I can hope for? Where do I go from here?



RL_Media Type: 

What type of affair was it?

Our free Affair Analyzer provides you with insights about your unique situation and gives you a personalized plan of action.
Take the Affair Analyzer

Free Surviving Infidelity Bootcamp

Our experts designed this step-by-step guide to help you survive infidelity. Be intentional with your healing with this free 7-day bootcamp.
I would highly recommend giving this a try.
-D, Texas