Q&A Is This a Normal Reaction of Shame and Guilt?

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My husband confessed that for the 20 years of our marriage he has been having sex with prostitutes. He grew up with what he called an abusive father that introduced him to porn at 11 and never had a relationship with him. In the past 16 months since confession my husband has been doing something that I don’t understand. He is reinventing our whole marriage, never talks about the infidelity but rather talks only about what he says caused him to be unfaithful for 20 years. From me beating him up, the kids beating him up and calling him names, me having affairs and calling my work to confirm it, telling me events that I have never heard before like men walking up to him telling him I am cheating on him, men walking up to him at the kids school and threaten to beat him up if he does treat me right, telling everyone that he has been in an abusive relationship and I am the one that’s been cheating on him. He says being abused by me for 20 years is what caused him to have sex with prostitutes. I am a mothers of 5 kids , I gave birth to 5 kids in 7 years and I have dedicated my life not only to my family but to God . I have never done any of the things he is saying. He has been saying those things for 16 months now; he repeats them over and over and over again and comes up with new stories almost every month. Is this part of blame and denial? Can it be this bad and for so long?



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