Q&A Should He Leave His Job?

Submitted by Leslie_Hardie Wed, 11/18/2020 - 16:23

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Question: 

I'm having a difficult time because my husband took a great job with a company where the affair partner works. We live in different states, and did when the affair was going on, but once a month he has to travel to the office where she is for several days. I have accompanied him twice, but the one time I didn't, several people met for dinner together and she was one of them. It almost ended recovery for us. I feel like we make steps toward progress and then once a month we get pushed a mile back because of my anxiety and fear when he goes to that office. I don't feel like trust can be reestablished with the consistent, monthly breakdowns I have when he goes to where she is. I cannot heal like this. Should he leave his job? What is your opinion or advice for us?

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Still at his job

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My husband is still working with his AP. Each trip he takes is getting harder to handle. After this last trip, I drew the boundary that I can't do this again. He doesn't know what do to and I don't want him to resent me if he quits his job. Will I ever heal this way with the continued work trips every 6wks? I haven't made much progress toward healing in the last 6months (4 total trips to her office out of town).

Still at his job

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My husband is still working with his AP. Each trip he takes is getting harder to handle. After this last trip, I drew the boundary that I can't do this again. He doesn't know what do to and I don't want him to resent me if he quits his job. Will I ever heal this way with the continued work trips every 6wks? I haven't made much progress toward healing in the last 6months (4 total trips to her office out of town).

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