Q&A Should I Stay in the Marriage for My Kids?

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After 10 years of marriage and 5 kids my wife felt unfulfilled and asked for a separation. This led to her having a 4 month affair. She broke off the affair after I begged her to reconcile. After another 6 months of counseling she let me move back home. 6 years ago I discovered she was in an emotional affair with the affair partner’s father. Along the way she found another man who provided her with money, gifts, and alcohol. She says those two were never physical, but I don't believe it. In the last 5 years she has attempted to seduce my brother multiple times and even texted him nude photos of herself. Years 10-22 of marriage have had physical and emotional affairs and sexting, also a growing addiction to alcohol. I've had enough. I filed for divorce. She checked herself into a Christian rehab facility for the third time. Currently we've been separated for 8 months. She says she's changed and wants to reconcile. I want to honor my vows, but I'm exhausted. I want to live in peace. The thought of a life with a new spouse who is faithful and truthful is very appealing. Should I stay for the well-being of the two kids left in the house? Is it ok to not want to stay married even if she wants to reconcile?



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