Q&A What Do I Do Now That There Is a Child with the Affair Partner?

It is stated many places that it is important for the unfaithful to break off all contact with the affair partner for several reasons. Sadly, it is not possible in my situation. My 62 year old spouse knowingly conceived a baby with his 27 year old affair partner. He is going through a legal suit about custody, child support, etc. He doesn’t want physical custody but feels he needs to keep some sort of shared legal custody because he is certain that she will implode sometime in the future and this child will need to be rescued. In the interim he has weekly visitation with his now 17 month old daughter. We live in a small town and she gave the baby my spouses name even though her other 2 children have 2 different last names so many people know. The affair partner is younger than our 2 daughters and was his employee. What do I do?