Q&A What Is a Normal Reaction from the Wayward When Discovering Infidelity?

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Immediately after discovering my husband’s secret email account, I called him at his work to confront him. He told me he was in a meeting. Later, when he came home, he was very angry, said nothing, came directly to the bedroom, took my credit cards, money, and told me that unless I deleted that email account he will call the police and deport me keeping our son with him. We live in the Middle East and he can do that. Now, I know, he is a sex addict, having sex with prostitutes in a frequent basis since the beginning of our marriage 16 years ago. What happened to the wonderful man that I served breakfast that morning? The one that criticized men that look at pornography or couples that live together before marriage? It was like another person was in the same body. I was in shock for several hours. I really thought I was having a hallucination. The next day, he started to apologize, and since then he has changed a lot, first disclosing by parts, blaming me for allowing our son to sleep with us in our bed as an infant, minimizing the extent of his behavior, eventually taking Hope for Healing and full responsibility. How frequently does a wayward spouse react that way?



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