Q&A What Should I Do?

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My husband and I have been together for 13 years (married for 5 of the years) and are 14 months past D-Day and there have been trickle truths since then. He has finally agreed to write a time line and there are 13 different people on the timeline including emotional and physical affairs. Unfortunately even with the substantial quantity I still have a feeling there is more. I have asked him a few times to take a polygraph to assure me all of the truth is out, however, he strongly refuses. He is willing for us to divorce if that’s what it means for him to not take the test. My husband is trying to do work in other ways including signing up for Hope for Healing which I’m grateful for, but I just cannot shake the feeling I may be blindsided one day and all of this work will be for nothing and my pain will be even deeper. I don’t feel I can truly invest without a polygraph. What should I do?



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