Q&A What Should I Do?”

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I’m 8 months past discovery of my husband’s most recent emotional affair. Discovery consisted of 2 months of me finding clues, his denying until confronted with undeniable evidence, then minimizing/justifying/blatantly lying about everything. I’m finally beginning to focus on my healing after 6 months of intensive therapy and spiritual counseling for him. Since treatment he’s been diagnosed with sexual addiction, revealed secret sexual promiscuity since childhood & throughout our dating, as well as porn use from 7-ish years old until this year. He’s completed a workbook on SA with his therapist but seeks no other treatment since then; we’ve attended couples’ therapy, completed EMSO, & are in MFL; and I’ve begun HH. My challenge: I was pressured and manipulated by him and a parent to marry as a pregnant teen, despite multiple refusals, under the guise of “doing the right thing.” I’ve never respected him as a husband but remained in the marriage as my perceived duty to our (now grown) children. Since finding out about the level of deceit he has practiced throughout the marriage I am repulsed and disgusted at the thought of staying, but keep feeling pressured on all sides to do so (from pastor, family, church friends, & husband). I’ve always felt trapped in this marriage and see his infidelity as a long-awaited opportunity to escape, but feel so alone. Can you advise me?



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