Q&A Would It Be Harmful to Ask If, and for How Long, There May Have Been Flashbacks or Memories of a Physical Affair?

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I just don’t want it to ‘leak’ out later. In the past he’s often tended to be more concerned about how he has had to deal with issues than my pain and healing. I have not yet received full disclosure from at least 2 physical affairs earlier in our marriage. About 2 1/2 months ago, after an argument I asked him to cut ties with a woman who was very involved in our life and whom I felt he was having an emotional affair with. He denies it as an affair and partially cut ties at first and now has no communication with her. He has overcome alcoholism and became a Christian about 8 years ago. I confronted him with my suspicions of the previous affairs because of the increasing tension in our marriage but he has given almost no disclosure. I have been compiling a list of questions in hopes of getting full disclosure and avoid future trickling of info. I want us to heal with reconciliation, but feel we cannot without full disclosure. I have proven my faithfulness through his addiction of 10+ years and a 3 1/2 year prison sentence for a drunken driving accident. I just don’t want to make any ‘mistakes’ in asking questions.



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