Q&A Would a Separation Be Appropriate or Beneficial for Me to Get Healing?

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I am 19 months post disclosure, but have had to deal with 4-6 months of what I call unintentional trickle truth. Facts or details that were not remembered during our "interrogation proceedings." None of our recovery work has been pursued by my wife on her own initiation or without intense arguments or conversation, initiated by me after ample suggestion, time, and opportunity to pursue recovery on her own. I don't know how to decipher when or if I am being manipulated or not. I feel like the trauma, PTSD, mental images of what has been done keep me from being able to live in the moment and be thankful for what is happening and what is being done now. Would a separation be appropriate or beneficial for me when all I see in her smile, her laugh, her touch, her look, and her presence is her betrayal? I wonder if that space would be more conducive to my own healing than the feeling of being held hostage within my own life because of her resistance to leave. I'd appreciate any of your thoughts.



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