Q&A Am I Overreacting or Is My Husband Not Taking Responsibility?

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We are 6 months from D-Day of my husbands 2nd affair. We completed EMSO Online and he is in Hope for Healing. He would be cheating on me, sexting, while playing video games even when I was at home in the room next to him. He would also contact her while playing golf. What hurts me is that he still plays video games. Even though he doesn’t have his phone next to him, the scene triggers me. I also don’t hear from him when he plays golf just as a check in. He knows it makes me feel unsafe & causes triggers, especially the gaming. But he still does it. I feel disrespected, hurt and that he’s needs are more important. I don’t feel like he’s taking true responsibility or cares about the extreme emotional damage his actions caused. Am I overreacting & being too demanding?

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No you are not overreacting.

No you are not overreacting. You are actually being too lenient. If what he is doing triggers you than maybe your husband needs to respect you by not doing those things for awhile. I would think he would want to do everything possible to gain your trust and respect. My husband has stayed off the computer and leaves his phone out where I can see it. Until this program I would enable my husband by not setting boundaries and blaming myself for the betrayals. No more! There needs to be some consequences to their behaviors and they need to take full responsibility for their choices.