Q&A As the Betrayed, How Do I Stop Obsessing About the Affair Partner?
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Question
I am the betrayed, and obsessed with my husband’s affair partner. I know it is my own pride and vanity, but I cannot get her out of my mind. I hate that she seems to have experienced no repercussions, I hate that she is younger, I hate how she seems to have taken away so much power. My husband says that she does not compare to me physically, and I do not feel like she is more beautiful, more kind, or more accomplished than I am. However, he said it was his lust for her that caused him to stray. It has only been 8 weeks since D-Day, but how do I stop obsessing over her and stop letting her continue to have this strong power over me? I can’t even look at my husband with anything but contempt because all I see is him and her.
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