Q&A Can an Addict Love Unconditionally?

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My partner is a sex addict. We just started the 13 week courses. Simultaneously, he is starting the 12 step program for sexual addiction. He has gone through 12 steps twice before I met him for alcohol abuse. Our story seems the typical for addicts and . Aside from all the betrayals and nightmare of addictions, my partner has confessed that he has cheated on all his partners and has never loved anyone. In fact, he has confessed that he never loved me either prior to our becoming unexpectedly pregnant. He claims that upon pregnancy, he “suddenly realized" that he Does love and wants the relationship. It still took year and my constant tormenting insistence that he admit his issues and address it. Now after Disclosure, in Recovery, I'm struggling to stay. We have two babies now and leaving would be hard. He claims he loves me but also is holding resentments against me which he knows are unjust. What do I do with this?! He still very clearly communicates that his comfort and opinions of others are more important to him than my pain. Is an addict ever truly capable of feeling unconditional loyal love for their partner? Or will they only continue to act out their self-interests? Please advise.

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