Q&A Could the Affair Be a Result of Addiction?

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My husband and I are finishing up EMS Online and have found it extremely helpful in strengthening our marriage and recovery. My husband is totally remorseful and has been 100% committed to us since discovery. I have a question about addiction. My husband had an affair for almost a decade. The physical part only being four days a year and the rest was long-distance via phone, emails, and texts. While in the affair he believed he loved her but was able to cut it off with her immediately the day I discovered what was going on. He says it was waning in the last year or so because she was starting to press him to leave me and even talked about marriage with him which ruined his fantasy relationship. I have been puzzled by him being able to cut it off so completely when everything I hear and read talks about the "withdrawal" the cheating spouse goes through when the affair ends. He says there was none. He thought he was addicted to how she made him feel. Could this have been an addiction? We reconnected within just a couple of days after discovery, both realizing what we had almost lost. Is that enough to break the addiction or was it not an addiction at all? He says he was relieved to be able to end it with her and come back to us.



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