Q&A Did I Extend Too Much Trust Too Soon?

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Should I be forcing trust at all? 4 months post D-day and 2 months after his last contact with the AP, I decided to extend trust to my husband by putting his social media accounts back on his mobile device for him which he had previously agreed to remove. During the affair they had used social media to maintain contact. When I got up the next day, I found he'd changed the settings on his social accounts to where anyone could contact him, unblocked her and put his new phone number on them so she would potentially be able to call or text him again. I feel like I am back to square one and I have only myself to blame. I thought I was extending love and grace toward him. Now I feel so unsafe I want him to leave.

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