The point of discovery of infidelity in a marriage is arguably the worst moment in both the unfaithful and the betrayed partner's lives. Emotions on both sides are high and often irrational, and fear and uncertainty about the future are drivers of many high-intensity interactions in the early days following disclosure. While these initial responses are natural, the unfaithful partner has an opportunity to take charge of their own response to kick-start a healthy healing process.

If you are the unfaithful partner in your marriage, what does a healthy response look like? Humbly reaching out for help from pastors, therapists, small groups, or those who have walked this road before. Building connections with those people, surrounding yourself with wise counsel, and starting to put together processes that will form a sustainable, long-term recovery program. Over time, as the betrayed spouse witnesses their partner committing to healthy life changes, a sense of safety and stability begins to return to the relationship. However, establishing a recovery program enables the unfaithful to become a better person, parent, etc, whether the marriage is restored or not.

Whether you are the wayward or the hurt spouse, know that you are not alone in this journey, and you have the opportunity to choose to ultimately become better, not bitter. Join veteran infidelity survivor Mickey today, as he encourages those walking the winding path toward healing.