Q&A Do I Accept My Mate Wanting a Divorce, or Do I Fight for the Marriage?

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We are 4.5 months post D-Day. My husband, the unfaithful, has asked for a divorce. He has not been doing what he needs to do for my recovery. He blame shifts, he gets defensive, he shuts down. He even tells me reasons he liked the AP compared to me. He keeps focusing on the troubles we had before or marriage, namely when we got in huge fights I would sometimes tell him I hated him or hit him when things got too heated. And our lack of sex due to my low sex drive. He wasn't without fault but he focuses on mine. He stopped going to couples or individual therapy saying it wasn't helping. And now that I have had 2 D-Days I am stuck in anger and became emotionally and physically abusive for a time. He has decided i will never change and wants a divorce. We are taking the EMSO but he is doing it halfheartedly just so that i can heal and he can move on. Do I just accept him wanting a divorce and try to move on, or do I fight for him? I feel like I have already been fighting for him more than he has for me, and he is the one who had the affair. I want to give us a chance. I think therapy could make both of us better people and help our relationship, but he is done trying. What do i do?



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