Q&A How Are You Supposed to 'Enjoy' Your Mate When There Is so Much Anger and Pain?

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My husband and I are currently in EMS Online, and are in week 7. I've completed the homework, but I can't say that it feels very relevant right now. I understand it conceptually, and would have been happy to make these adjustments in thinking before his affair. But, how am I supposed to implement just "enjoying" being with my spouse when just being with him hurts so much, and reminds me of his betrayal, and everything we have lost? I don't know if I will ever get over this pain, or be able to forgive him. What do I do with this lesson now?



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