Q&A How Can I Continue to Be Empathetic to Her If in Spite of All I Do, It Is Still Not Enough?

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We have worked hard on recovery. We seem to have come to a huge block. Nothing seems to satisfy my wife now. I have given up all resistance at this point. I literally do whatever she asks of me. I ask her, "What else can I do, to show you I want you and want our relationship?" Whatever answer she gives, I do it. Once she sees there is nothing I am not willing to do for her, then she will mention how I mistreated her in the past or was resistant to her requests in the past and she hates me for that. I tell her " I can't change what I did in the past". I can only change now, and I am changing. How can I continue to be empathetic to her if in spite of all I do, it is still not enough? She has to find something to be pissed about. How can I consistently put in the energy if it seems to do nothing? It seems like it is backfiring now. I don't know what to do.



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