Q&A How can I Feel Safe when my Mate's Affair was with their Ex?

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Hi Rick, His AP was his ex-wife and I am really struggling with the fact that it was her. Any AP would have been horrible to accept, but his ex wife (come on). He says there was no emotional attachment she was just an easy target. He knew there would be no chase no nothing . The first D-day was Jan.2, 2014, I tried until March 2015 to deal with it on my own. We started EMS online and then more D-days. I found he is a sex addict along with many lies over the whole affair. Question Why her? From my point of view no matter what he says there is emotion attachment they were married 16 years and have 2 adult boys. I feel that ideally he still wants to be with her. He tells me no that is not so, that he screwed up and knows he was wrong. Point why her? Thank you



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