Q&A How Can I Help My Mate?

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Hello Rick, We are 15 months from D-Day. My wife told me 2 months ago she forgives me for my affair and everything else she held on to. She seemed sincere and told me in tears I did not have to worry about divorce and we would continue on our recovery together. Since then she stopped attending our group calls, does not talk about the affair or recovery, and no longer visits the AR site. We attended EMS weekend this past summer and we both left with hope for our marriage. While there, she was told she was suffering from PTSD and should seek out EMDR treatment. She continues to have intrusive thoughts and visions. I believe that the PTSD is our biggest obstacle. She now does not want this marriage and is making plans for a life without me. I asked her if she would consider holding off making any decisions right now because recovery typically takes 18-24 months and she has not addressed her PTSD. She tells me to stop blaming her PTSD for the way she feels about me. My wife suffers from severe anxiety and has had 2 panic attacks this past week. I do not know what else to do at this point. Any suggestions or thoughts will be greatly appreciated.



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