Q&A How Can I Manage the Relationships With My In-Laws?

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Rick, My wife and I are working thru 2 affairs. One from end of 2012 thru summer 2013 and one January of 2015 that ended in her leaving and filing for Divorce. We were separated until July of 2015. It was a nasty divorce that thankfully was called off before conclusion. Her parents are still not supportive of our marriage. They claim they are but don't support such things like us taking EMSO and don't feel she did anything wrong in the marriage at all. They condoned her actions throughout the affair and divorce and even when she wanted to start working things out made it seem impossible and they would disown her. She has openly told them that they are not welcome in our marriage but things are still said or done that has caused some heated moments for my wife and her family. I've accepted my responsibility for the broken marriage that would have been present with or without the infidelity but they think I need to take all responsibility. What direction do I need to go in to aid in healing, handling triggers, feeling safe, and etc. in the situation? I would never ask her to detach from her family and openly go to family functions because I know the importance for the kids but I know I haven't truly experienced forgiveness towards them especially her mother. I'm a little lost for directions and can't seem to wrap my head around it. Appreciate any help or guidance. Thanks



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