On March 30, 2017 my wife of 35yrs told me about an affair that may of lasted 5-7 yrs depending on which of many stories is true. The affair included AP getting her pregnant, her having an abortion and her blaming me for it. This all happened 22 to 27 yrs ago. We were highschool sweethearts, have three adults kids and what I thought was a great love story. Her lies, deception, manipulation, abuse and murder of my love story all these yrs later I just don't get. We have actually carved out a great life, the affair ended only due to us moving due to my employment. She constantly lies about it and says it's to protect me because she loves me. I'm an X CEO. We thrive on info, we are on week 2 and watched your video and I can honestly tell u without a white lie that I have checked 95% of the tried that boxes over 75 days. How do I come to terms with the unending lies??

Rick's recommended resources:

• Trauma and Memory by Peter A. Levine Ph.D. and Bessel A. van der Kolk M.D.
• Q&A To Ask or Not to Ask?