I am the betrayed spouse and we are 5 months from the first D-Day. We are currently in EMSO. We have been married 19 years. My husband had multiple anonymous sexual encounters on business travel, a daily masturbation and porn habit, a sexting relationship with an old acquaintance, and one anonymous hook up that became a long distance emotional affair. All the other encounters were emotionless. This emotional affair hurt me the most because my husband stopped having sex with me and has avoided intimacy with me throughout our marriage. I have even tried to be more like her who he characterized as fun and energetic. I have 4 special needs children and I am often serious and analytical. How do I recover from the devastation I feel regarding his infidelities? This one particularly hurts.