Q&A How Do I Regain a Sense of Safety after His Relapse?

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We are in MFL week 12. In week 10 my sex addicted husband relapsed and went to a massage parlor. We are in the middle of a very stressful move that will allow us to get counselling we have been unable to do that in our remote town. Help is minimum 3 weeks out. I handled the relapse outwardly ok. I used empathy and let him know I was sorry he lost the battle but was proud he was still fighting the war. I feel transported back to the beginning of my healing though. I am unable to sleep, the nightmares are back. The panic attacks are back. I am easily irritated and struggle to want to be in the same space. Intellectually I understand but emotionally I am losing control. Any advice on how to regain a sense of safety. He is unable to do much to help but is trying. I know he can handle me sharing about 10 percent of what is going on before shame takes over and my pain causes flooding for him and conflict for us. Any wisdom you have would be appreciated Thank you.



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