I am struggling with acceptance. I know my wayward spouse feels I am judgmental - that I do not accept him. I want to but how do I accept sexual acting out? I say (and believe) it is his behaviors, not the hurt little boy he is inside, that is the problem. I tell him, and mean it, that I love the little boy, he is lovable. I try to often tell him about his good points. I never call him names. I try to hug and be affectionate. It doesn't seem to be enough. I understand though as sometimes it doesn't really feel like acceptance to me either. We are not committed to reconciliation only to considering it. He says that he can't love me because he doesn't love himself. Is it that he doesn't accept himself so he can't believe I accept him. How do I show acceptance? What does acceptance look like?