Q&A How Does One Reconcile Faith with the Affair And Letting Your Mate Go?

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My wife has left and she claims the affair has nothing to do with it. However, she has constant contact with her affair partner. I’ve written her a final letter as my priest suggested detailing my feelings for her, desire to reconcile, appealing our sacramental marriage inviolability. Her response accused me of no love, which “is the only reason to stay married”. Because of everything I did or didn’t do she can’t be with me. I responded detailing my love’s constancy with many examples. Barring this, I can’t live with lies and asked her to come clean with her parents and siblings. I asked her to create an age appropriate statement for the teenagers as we’re all hurting and need to heal. My request is not to control her but done out of love. If this is what she wants, so be it. It’s not my place to tell her family but the Bible says that sin flourishes in darkness. How does one reconcile faith with the affair and “letting her go”? Is there a better way?



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