Q&A How Long Should I Wait for My Mate to Come out of Limerence?

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My wife told me she couldn't be with me anymore because she had feelings for another man. I found out it was a best friend of mine who lives on the other side of my street. She said it was just emotional but I found out it was sexual. When I watched our son and she should have been at the gym she was going to his house. I have been waiting for her to come out of it but in studying limerence I know she is deep into this fantasy. It doesn't make sense because this man is almost twice her age. He just lost his wife four months ago to cancer. I gave her boundaries and told her she needed to stop talking to him so we can work on our marriage and she said she couldn't. She started the 7 day bootcamp and she couldn't get through it. She has watched some videos but she says it doesn't help with how she feels about him. Pastors, friends, and family have talked to her but she just can't snap out of it. Is it too early to move on to the divorce and hope that might wake her up? She knows what she is doing is wrong but she can't stop talking to him. She needs to know how he is doing . I want to heal so I signed up for Harboring Hope and I have studied all I can about this. How long should I wait or is this a clear sign and i just don't want to accept it?



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