Q&A How Much Time Is Reasonable to Talk per Day or Even per Week to Process a 10 Year Affair?

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I’m the betrayed and we are nine months past discovery. We are on week three of EMS Online. I discovered my husband of 28 years has been having an affair for 10 years. He ended it immediately and is remorseful. 10 years is a long time to process. I have largely been unable to move forward because my husband avoids allowing me to talk or gets angry and walks out when I try. I usually remain calm and respectful, he has a long history of temper outbursts and verbal abuse. He points out that you say a maximum of 10 minutes per day should be the time limit for talking or asking a question, that anything beyond that is marathoning. Is that correct? I agree there should be a reasonable length of time to talk, but surely you don’t mean 10 minutes a day? At that rate I could never get my questions answered or process a 10 year affair. As it is, we talk maybe 30 minutes every 2 weeks.



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