Q&A How Much Time Should I Give It before I Can Tell Whether or Not We Will Recover?

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My situation may be a little unusual. My husband's affair was going on right in front of my eyes as he was spending a great deal of time in social situations outside the office with a co-worker. We had many conversations/fights regarding this relationship but he wouldn't stop it. I knew for 5 months they were having an affair even though he continued to tell me they were "just friends" and denied anything inappropriate was going on. I finally hired a PI to follow them and when I confronted him with the evidence he then had to finally admit it. If you want to call that D-Day then it was Oct., 2016. I asked him to move out and I began divorce proceedings. Once my husband realized I was serious about getting a divorce he then ended his relationship and begged me to take him back and give him another chance. That was Jan., 2017. He also began to realize that the AP wasn't as wonderful as he originally thought. We have been in a recovery mode for about 6 weeks and he seems to be genuinely dedicated to restoring our marriage and has made changes in his social schedule so that he and the AP don't have as much interaction as they did before. However they still work together and although he says they have no contact I've found out that he still continues to maintain some kind of friendship with her but not outside the office. How much pressure should I put on him to discontinue this friendship? Should I try to give our recovery more time before I say anything?


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