Q&A Is It Normal for Sexual Interactions to Change after Discovery?

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Without being too detailed, I will say that since the affair and reconciliation, my wife and I have a very active sex life. What I am finding though, as the betrayed husband, is that I often feel somewhat disconnected when we make love. Is it normal, a little less than 6 months out from the start of reconciliation to have a hard time being "up to the task" on occasion or having it take a much longer amount of time to climax? I find my wife extremely attractive and enjoy myself, but don't know what to think. My wife is worried I don't find her attractive or don't like her the same way. It's surprising to us both sometimes because previous to the affair it was the total opposite issue of climaxing quickly. It's kind of embarrassing to put this out there but I thought you may have insight.



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