Q&A Is it Possible to Move Forward With These Details?

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My husband had an affair with a coworker from August to February. We have recently started marriage counseling. She recently moved jobs so he no longer sees her (I hope).He wants to stay married. We have a toddler and I am trying to stay for her sake. I don't know how to move on from his affair. He has told me too many details (dates they went on, sexual details, even down to foods that she likes). I never asked him to tell me these things; he had just slowly said them over time in conversation. I've told him repeatedly that he needs to stop and he says he will try. Even if he stops saying all these things, how do I move past all the details that I know? I am so damaged because for example he says that sex with her was good but it was not good with me. He says that now that we know we have problems, we can work on them. He says that he still loves her and he misses her. He says this will probably go away with more time. Is that true, can his feelings for her go away? Is it possible for me to move forward, knowing all the details that I know? How do I convey to him how much damage he is causing me when he talks about the other woman? I feel like I'm always being compared, not just sexually but also in our personalities.



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