Q&A Is It Wrong to Feel a Sense of a Sexual Revolution, after His Affair?

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After D-day I was shocked! After 23 yrs married, I never thought he'd cheat. Our sex life had become very hum drum. I wanted more excitement and he wanted more too but he ordered me like steak on a menu. Is it weird that his affair actually turned me on? I was intrigued by this bad boy, I never knew existed. At the same time, I was hurt and angry. I reacted to the trauma in a very unusual way. My attitude was, if this is how you want to play...I'm game and we started swinging. Swinging was fun and consensual and gave me a self esteem boost after the betrayal. It was not however all it was cracked up to be, and in the end it proved, I like sex with my husband and no one satisfies me like he does. We still talk about swinging and we definitely flirt online and I have become a little naughty online with exhibition sites like Tumblr. Doing this keeps my husband on his toes, he likes this side of me, has boosted our sex drive and it gave me my confidence back. Is it wrong to feel a sense of a sexual revolution, after his affair? Can swinging or sharing be a healthy part of a marriage if both spouses are on board?



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