Q&A Is Minimal Contact the Right Thing to Do at This Moment?

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My husband had an emotional affair that turned physical. As far as I know, his infidelity lasted for 5 weeks and was ended by the affair partner. D-day was a little over 3 months ago. My husband continued to chat with women online inappropriately and lied about it. I found out by looking at his phone, which I have since stopped doing because I realize it does not help me at all to see these messages. My husband says he has stopped talking to these women and is participating in EMS Online. His effort fells minimal to me. We are also both doing individual counseling: I started right after D-Day, he started a few weeks ago. In the last few weeks we have been fighting a lot. He has a lot of anger and resentment toward me, accuses me of being controlling and minimizes his infidelity. After fighting a lot my husband finally moved out, to "work on himself" but he also said we are done and that he is not actively looking to date but "if life happens he is not going to question it". He said that he tried with me for years and that he is sick and tired of our relationship. I am at a loss at this point, hoping that minimal contact will help him to see what life is like without me and to finally wake up. I am the sole breadwinner currently and do not want to finance his current lifestyle indefinitely, as I don't know what he is up to at all. Do I give up on this marriage? Is minimal contact the right thing to do right now? Is there anything else I can do? How long should I keep financing him?



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