I am the betrayer and I have engaged in two emotional affairs one ended in April and one in October. Both times my wife uncovered the affairs and we have been working with a counselor together and individually. I have re-committed myself to my marriage and my family and no longer seek the need for external validation from another woman. I did tell the first AP that I loved her, which I regret, as I never did love her but was using her to feed my ego. My wife struggles with the fact that I didn’t tell the AP partner that I didn’t love her when we talked for the last time after D-Day. I love my wife dearly and want to mend our marriage how do I get her past that hurdle of not telling the AP the truth about not being in love with her. My wife feels that I left the door open for the AP to try to reconnect by not doing that.