Q&A Should the Wayward Spouse Delete All Reminders of the Affair Partner?

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My wife had a 6 week affair earlier this year. She has really struggled with rejection from her AP because they both decided to end it when I found out, but she has really struggled letting go of the "fantasy world" she shared with him. She's worked extremely hard at healing and trying to move past the pain she caused me and herself, but even after 9 months of no contact with him, she still struggles with her thoughts. I certainly expect this and I too struggle, but both of us are, I believe, further along in our recovery than we have been in the past. I recently found some old emails, photos, and other items she has hid and kept as memories, so she can remember him and that time in her life. I suggested to her that if she was really serious about moving on and getting past all of this, then she should delete the emails, photos, and all other memories. This will help ensure both of us are not triggered more than we need to be with thoughts of the pain this has caused. What would your advice be in this situation?



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