I saw your video regarding intrusive thoughts and how I can share them with my spouse. I just recently shared intrusive thoughts (reluctantly) with my spouse because he kept pushing me to tell him. I do not think I said it in a manner that was aggressive, however I DO believe his shame took over and therefore he lashed out at me asking me why do I ask those questions, they do not serve any purpose for "our future". I tried to explain that I don't ask about 90% of the questions I have regarding intrusive thoughts. We argued. Does this mean we should just get a divorce if we cannot seem to respect each others feelings? I don't see us ever agreeing on our feelings. He's dealing with one thing and I'm dealing with another.

Rick's suggested resources:

• Not Just Friends by Shirley P. Glass
• After the Affair by Janis A. Spring