Q&A Should We Move to Get Away from the Affair Partner?

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One of the affairs my husband had was with a local woman he met at the gym. She lives 4 minutes away from us, and I had met her, she had visited our house etc. Anyway, we have similar aged kids and as we are both locals, I now have to see her/ sit in the same room as her twice a week while our kids play sports. I find this very confronting and painful. I don't want to ever set eyes on her again.


I know myself and I don't think this will ever get easier for me. I just need to be free of her and the feelings that come up when I see her.


For this reason I want to move, but my husband says he likes where we live and really has ignored my feelings on the issue. This hurts. I feel hurt because this is a consequence of what he did, and I am dealing with it alone and he doesn't care. I feel like I am not a priority to him and this should have been an easy decision for him.


I know moving wouldn't solve all our problems, but I feel distance and not seeing her would give me more peace. Being stuck here makes me consider leaving him.

What should I do?



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