Q&A What Do You Recommend in My Situation?

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I’m feeling confused and fearful. It’s been 11 months since D-Day when I found out about my husband's short term affair with a younger woman from our church. The woman no longer attends, but some of her family is there. Our church is fairly large, but practically everyone knows the details of the situation. It’s more than humiliating. The place and people are very much triggers for me. My husband wants us to attend at least once per week as a family, but doesn’t want to pressure me either. My kids have been raised in this church and want to go there. I feel lost, if I go then I’m facing the humiliation head on and it scares me, if I don’t my family will be going without me and then I feel like I’m being punished (of which I am) for his decisions. I know that it’s easy to say, find another church, but in our situation and for very specific reasons it’s not that simple. For the sake of my family as a whole, I’d like to attend and be happy there, but the reality is I’m not happy and I’m afraid. I had tremendous PTSD symptoms for a long time and I’m terrified of triggering any one of them to return. I feel fragile, displaced, and unsure of who I am or how I am perceived at church. I can’t just fake it, or can I? What do you recommend?



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