I caught him researching her a couple weeks ago and he told me that he had been doing it for a couple weeks now.. His was a very limerent, emotional and sexual affair.. After this, I just feel like I’m right at square one... I’m flooding constantly and our fights are escalating ever since.. I just feel like everything he’s said is a lie now, I’m hyper vigilant and worried all the time now and I don’t want to be.. I worked really hard to process all that had happened since last d-day and I feel like I’ve back tracked immensely.. I don’t know if this is normal and how to get through it. I sought out counseling so hopefully we/I can start that soon because I know I need it.. I’m scared and weary... It all feels like it did on d-day.. I don’t like feeling or acting the way I have been, I feel like I’m out of control of my emotions and he isn’t handling it very well and it makes everything worse. We’re in week 6 of EMSO and I caught him on week 4. I don’t know what to do, it’s seems like we’re having escalated fights every other day. He does well handling my flooding sometimes, but then other times I feel like he’s flooding and reacting as much as I am.. I don’t know what to do..