It seems like the more I ask for the answers I need, the more my unfaithful spouse gets frustrated, defensive and shuts down. It has been three years since initial D-Day but there were several more after that, only disclosed as a result of my continued need for answers to things that didn’t make sense. The most recent disclosure was only 2 weeks ago when he told me that his initial description of a short lived 2 month affair was actually more like 18 months plus.That devastated me because I was finally starting to get my head around what I thought had happened and reality changed again. Even during that admission he lied, as if he thought if he told me something believable I would finally drop it. But my gut always tells me when something doesn’t seem right. We are starting EMSO soon. Should I just wait and hope that process gives me the honesty I need?