Q&A Which Should We Work on First?

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Hi Rick. I'm the betrayed, and my spouse and I have been married 20 years. Dday 1 was 10 yrs ago and dday 2 2/1/2 yrs ago. My spouse wants me to identify my contributions to the destruction of the marriage. On top of it, he is finally (after 20 years of not speaking up) feeling very open & compelled to identify them for me. I feel like we need to heal from the infidelity, lies, and deception before we can back track and work on root issues that were there before Dday. He wants to work on all of it. What do you recommend?

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