Q&A Why Do I Feel so Attacked When My Wife Brings up My past Infidelity?

Submitted by Rick_Reynolds 6 years ago

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We were 11 months out from D-Day and I am the wayward spouse. We have been to EMS weekend and I have completed HFH. Why do I feel so attacked when my wife brings up my past infidelity? I am sure I have pride and shame. But what can I do to not flood if she wants to review my failures for more than ten minutes? This happens at least once a day. I have an overwhelming desire to freeze and then to flee.

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