Q&A Why Is He Okay as Long as I Don’t Talk about It? How Can We Get past This If He’s Unwilling to Answer Questions?

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My husband says he is sorry about the affair and that he wants to make things work. However his words and actions towards my questions, pain, anger and hurt say otherwise. Why is he okay as long as I don’t talk about it? How can we get past this if he’s unwilling to answer questions? It’s been 5 years. We went to the EMS Weekend and all he can say is that it didn’t work for me, it didn’t change me. He says I need to stop feeling sorry and pity for myself and that I’m not really forgiving him if I ask or talk about the affair.



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